Sometimes, it may be the case, but a lot of the time, its us being triggered by our abandonment issues as well. Basically, if I decide that he would like something Im doing, it feels like getting validation. Why is it called borderline personality disorder? You need to look after you first and any aggressive behavior isnt safe, nor fair, for you. Famous people with BPD include: 1. However, for someone with BPD,this intense relationship can feel all-encompassing. Some people revel in the idea of being an FP. Both parties need to be aware of the dynamic between them and ensure ongoing accountability for their roles and expectations in the relationship[3]. Understanding the BPD Favorite Person Relationship. THANKS!". Chances are, your favorite person has other things they pay attention to, are busy with work, other friends, family, hobbies, perhaps a significant other or they dont think about you as nearly as much as you think about them. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a condition marked by intense emotions and moods which are not easily contained. Rychel Johnson is a licensed clinical professional counselor in Kansas. Terms. But if you actually break down and give it to them, they don't understand why they are even getting it. That doesnt happen very often, though. ", "Uh, okay??? It's like you're bragging or something. I did them. I ate bacon! Maybe wondering what it means. These mechanisms include shifting your focus,labeling the situation and your feelings,and trying to take a pause before reacting. If you need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or reach the Crisis Text Line by texting START to 741741. Borderline Personality Disorder What to know if you're the favorite person. Do whatever it is you need to do to help yourself, but please, try not to harm yourself and speak negatively toward yourself. Reviewing the clinical significance of 'fear of abandonment' in borderline personality disorder. It's like they can't understand why their plan to copy you didn't work. Emotional Dysregulation Many people with BPD struggle to manage their emotions, I write mostly about my thoughts and feelings about my mental illnesses and how it affects my life as it crops up. Dumb little fucker.". To avoid tantrums, and to ensure peace reigns with a person with BPD, a favorite person will find that they put the person with BPD into consideration when making decisions that might affect them.